21 Ways to Thrive in a Structured Society


I’ve been thinking a lot about the “American Dream.” More specifically, I’ve been thinking a lot about how I don’t want the “American Dream.”

I don’t want to work my fingers to the bone doing what society tells me to do.

Its easy to get caught up in this whirlwind of what our lives should look like. We should pay thousands of dollars for a degree to get jobs that don’t exist. We can’t get married before we graduate college but you better be married by the time you’re 30, so don’t miss your window. You have to get high paying careers before you make the decision to have children whom you will battle every day to spend quality time with, but you’re just too tired or stressed. You better spend your weekends making every minute count before Monday comes. Eat, drink, drown your sorrows & before you know it, the kids are grown and gone. You have a spouse who you barely know because you spent years spreading yourself too thin and running through life like zombies. Then you die…?

All the while, you’ve been scrimping and saving money, because that’s what you’re going to think about on your death bed, right? Or how you missed out on gaining experiences because you were too busy gaining money? How you took overtime instead of going to that dance recital. How you skipped the honeymoon because it didn’t financially make sense. Is this what our life comes down to? Dollars and logistics?

I don’t want it.

Rich people don’t have a lot of money. The truly rich have moments. They have spent their lives gathering memories and experiences. I was not put here to serve America and its ideals of a “perfect life.” I was put here to serve God, and if that means selling all of my belongings and spending years in missionary work, then so be it. Just because you move around a lot or can’t decide what you want to do with this life doesn’t make you fickle or naive. It doesn’t make you indecisive, it means you want more out of life than what “they” have outlined for you.

If you’re like me, you probably haven’t decided what your soul purpose in this world is. Some people never figure it out, but shouldn’t we at least try?

Start today: I’ve made a list of all the things in my life that make me feel alive & thriving. Choose your lifestyle for you. And choose a different one if you don’t like that one.


Alive & Thriving

Write – even if you have nothing to say.

Read – even when you don’t think you have time.

Explore – you haven’t seen the world yet.

Take pictures – gathering moments one picture at a time.

Close your eyes – in the sunshine.

Stay inside – & listen to the rain.

Listen to music – that matches your mood.

Go camping – surviving is exhilarating.

Make plans – then change them.

Make your house a home – decorate, remodel, invest time, enjoy.

Socialize – be around happy people.

Converse – deeply.

Make lists – because it’s fun.

Volunteer – give & receive.

Kiss – your hubby, dogs, etc.

Build – with your hands.

Cook – from scratch.

Visit animal shelters – humble yourself with love.

Compliment – instead of insulting.

Smile – at strangers.

LIVE – before it’s too late.



“Forever is composed of nows.” – Emily Dickinson



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